Chapter 9, Section 4 of 4
There Is Buried Treasure
(taken from the book "I Will Give You Rest" by Edward Kurath)
The "Big Hurt"
When people judge themselves instead of loving themselves, they
feel emotional pain. This particular sort of hurt is the most
excruciating and debilitating emotional pain a person can
experience. God made it to be so painful because He wants us to
avoid doing this to ourselves. I call it the "Big Hurt" because it is
so severe. This pain of separation from ourselves, from our
Treasure Inside, is so pervasive and awful that we will do anything
to get rid of it.
For example, suppose your best friend no longer wants to do
things with you. Your friend always used to be available to go
places and do things with you, but now when you ask her (or him)
to come over and visit, there is always an excuse. How would that
make you feel?
Take a moment and feel how that would make you feel.
How would you describe the feelings? Rejected, abandoned,
empty, unimportant, worthless, like "dog meat?"
Sequence Of Events When You
Judge Yourself:
This is what we do:
This all happens in an instant, and it is automatic. You
would only be consciously aware that it has happened
when you feel the "Big Hurt."
Ways To Cover Up The Pain
People are compelled into all sorts of behaviors in order to keep
from feeling this pain of separation. Most addictions,
codependence, and compulsive behaviors are attempts to dull this
feeling.
Addictions are behaviors or substances that we discover through
trial and error that seem to reduce the intensity of the Big Hurt, and
thus make us feel a bit better for the moment. However, because
these things only cover the pain rather than fixing the source of the
pain (the judgment of ourselves), we must constantly indulge in
them, trying to obtain some relief.
The Big Hurt then dominates our life. We fear rejection (because
being rejected triggers our self-rejection). We cannot have
empathy for others because our inner pain is speaking so loudly
that it drowns out any such soft and subtle emotions. We are truly
disabled.
The "Big Hurt" Gives The World
Power Over You
When you are at war with yourself in this way, the World has
control over you. It has control because the way people relate to
you can trigger your self-judgment, and that brings intolerable
pain. You become a people pleaser in order to avoid feeling the
Big Hurt. On the other hand, when the war inside you stops, and
you are then loving yourself, the World can no longer trigger the
self-judgment. Then you no longer have to please the World to
keep from feeling the pain of the self-judgment.
Therefore, only when it is safe inside you (you are loving your
Treasure Inside) are you able to withstand the hurt and the evil that
is in the world.
How To Live Free
When your internal relationship is one of love and not discord, and
you are determined to protect your Treasure Inside rather than
attack him or her, you are living the way God intended for you to
live. And since the Lord dwells in your Treasure Inside, you can
rely on Him to be your strength to keep you safe. Then you are
safe from the fiery darts of the enemy. Then you have the
resources to love others and to venture out into the evil world.
What About The "Bad Part?"
I have been speaking of loving yourself (your Treasure Inside), but
what about the fallen nature in each human being? Since we are
sinners, there is also a "bad part" inside us. However, the "bad
part," which some refer to as "the flesh," is not what I have been
referring to as your Treasure Inside in my diagrams.
Unfortunately, many of us have seen our Treasure Inside as the
"bad part," and this perception has often been reinforced both by
life experiences and by some Bible teaching. I will address this
issue in detail in Chapter 13, “The Bad Part Of You." I also
elaborate on the "good part" in more detail in Chapter 12, "The
Good Part Of You."
We Throw The Baby Out With The
Bathwater
Much of our trouble comes from confusing the "good part" with
the "bad part." We need to distinguish the difference between
these two parts, and recognize that they both exist. They are not
one and the same. When we have judged ourselves and built The
Wall, we have "thrown the baby out with the bath water." We have
unwittingly thrown out the good with the bad.
Why Should You Want To Remove
The Wall?
I have had numerous clients ask me why they should want to
remove The Wall. After all, it keeps them from feeling emotional
pain. One man in particular asked me this question, because he
observed how his wife was blown about by her emotions. He, on
the other hand, was able to stay cool in all situations. "Why would
I want to enter her crazy world?" he asked.
This is a very important question that needs to be addressed. After
all, when we have a Wall inside, we placed it there for a purpose - to
protect us from pain. I told him there were several reasons why he
should dismantle The Wall:
For this particular man, these were convincing, as he was a man
who wanted to serve and obey God. He decided to cooperate with
Jesus in the process of removing The Wall.
Summary
For some reason God didn't chose to place your various gifts in
one place inside you. You need to become aware of the fact that
there is a part of you, your Treasure Inside, over which you do not
have conscious control. It is a part of you that you truly need in
order to have intimate relationships with other people and with
God. In order to have access to those attributes contained in your
Treasure Inside you need to have an intimate, loving relationship
with yourself.
If you are presently unable to do this, there is a Wall of separation
that needs to be removed. The Wall is made up of Bitter Root
Judgments against yourself, and Inner Vows not to listen to that
part of you. Only the blood of Jesus and the authority in His name
can remove The Wall. Removing The Wall is God's plan for you.
Read Chapter 12
Your "Treasure Inside," which I talked about in this chapter, really
exists. He or she is made in the image of God. This is a difficult
concept for many people to grasp, but Scripture is clear about this.
Chapter 12 of the book, which is included on this website, will
provide you with more information about the Treasure Inside you.
If what you have been reading makes sense to you, then
to actually take this journey out of your brokenness and
into peace, you need the whole story.
My book, "I Will Give You Rest" gives you the whole
story, including the scriptures revealing how Jesus and
you can do this.
Complete your journey
You should get the book to get the rest of the story.
Buying and using the book will be one of the best
investments you ever made in yourself. And you can
return it for a full refund if it does not measure up to
your expectations.
If you can not afford to buy a copy, email us
your situation and we will consider sending you a
free copy. We want everyone to experience the
freedom Jesus promised!
Email us at: edkurath@divinelydesigned.com.
Copyright 2003 Edward Kurath
There Is Buried Treasure
(taken from the book "I Will Give You Rest" by Edward Kurath)
The "Big Hurt"
When people judge themselves instead of loving themselves, they
feel emotional pain. This particular sort of hurt is the most
excruciating and debilitating emotional pain a person can
experience. God made it to be so painful because He wants us to
avoid doing this to ourselves. I call it the "Big Hurt" because it is
so severe. This pain of separation from ourselves, from our
Treasure Inside, is so pervasive and awful that we will do anything
to get rid of it.
For example, suppose your best friend no longer wants to do
things with you. Your friend always used to be available to go
places and do things with you, but now when you ask her (or him)
to come over and visit, there is always an excuse. How would that
make you feel?
Take a moment and feel how that would make you feel.
How would you describe the feelings? Rejected, abandoned,
empty, unimportant, worthless, like "dog meat?"
Sequence Of Events When You
Judge Yourself:
This is what we do:
This all happens in an instant, and it is automatic. You
would only be consciously aware that it has happened
when you feel the "Big Hurt."
Ways To Cover Up The Pain
People are compelled into all sorts of behaviors in order to keep
from feeling this pain of separation. Most addictions,
codependence, and compulsive behaviors are attempts to dull this
feeling.
Addictions are behaviors or substances that we discover through
trial and error that seem to reduce the intensity of the Big Hurt, and
thus make us feel a bit better for the moment. However, because
these things only cover the pain rather than fixing the source of the
pain (the judgment of ourselves), we must constantly indulge in
them, trying to obtain some relief.
The Big Hurt then dominates our life. We fear rejection (because
being rejected triggers our self-rejection). We cannot have
empathy for others because our inner pain is speaking so loudly
that it drowns out any such soft and subtle emotions. We are truly
disabled.
The "Big Hurt" Gives The World
Power Over You
When you are at war with yourself in this way, the World has
control over you. It has control because the way people relate to
you can trigger your self-judgment, and that brings intolerable
pain. You become a people pleaser in order to avoid feeling the
Big Hurt. On the other hand, when the war inside you stops, and
you are then loving yourself, the World can no longer trigger the
self-judgment. Then you no longer have to please the World to
keep from feeling the pain of the self-judgment.
Therefore, only when it is safe inside you (you are loving your
Treasure Inside) are you able to withstand the hurt and the evil that
is in the world.
How To Live Free
When your internal relationship is one of love and not discord, and
you are determined to protect your Treasure Inside rather than
attack him or her, you are living the way God intended for you to
live. And since the Lord dwells in your Treasure Inside, you can
rely on Him to be your strength to keep you safe. Then you are
safe from the fiery darts of the enemy. Then you have the
resources to love others and to venture out into the evil world.
What About The "Bad Part?"
I have been speaking of loving yourself (your Treasure Inside), but
what about the fallen nature in each human being? Since we are
sinners, there is also a "bad part" inside us. However, the "bad
part," which some refer to as "the flesh," is not what I have been
referring to as your Treasure Inside in my diagrams.
We need to recognize that there is within us both a
"bad part" (Chapter 13) and a "good part" (our
Treasure Inside, Chapter 12).)
It is imperative to not confuse the two!
Unfortunately, many of us have seen our Treasure Inside as the
"bad part," and this perception has often been reinforced both by
life experiences and by some Bible teaching. I will address this
issue in detail in Chapter 13, “The Bad Part Of You." I also
elaborate on the "good part" in more detail in Chapter 12, "The
Good Part Of You."
We Throw The Baby Out With The
Bathwater
Much of our trouble comes from confusing the "good part" with
the "bad part." We need to distinguish the difference between
these two parts, and recognize that they both exist. They are not
one and the same. When we have judged ourselves and built The
Wall, we have "thrown the baby out with the bath water." We have
unwittingly thrown out the good with the bad.
Why Should You Want To Remove
The Wall?
I have had numerous clients ask me why they should want to
remove The Wall. After all, it keeps them from feeling emotional
pain. One man in particular asked me this question, because he
observed how his wife was blown about by her emotions. He, on
the other hand, was able to stay cool in all situations. "Why would
I want to enter her crazy world?" he asked.
This is a very important question that needs to be addressed. After
all, when we have a Wall inside, we placed it there for a purpose - to
protect us from pain. I told him there were several reasons why he
should dismantle The Wall:
- 1. To have the hurts inside healed. With The Wall in place, we
can't tell where our wounds are. I will talk about this in detail
in Chapter 11, "Emotions Are Your Friend."
2. To have access to the resources in our Treasure Inside.
Otherwise we will continue to have a very limited ability to
operate in those gifts.
3. To be like Jesus. Jesus didn't have The Wall inside Him.
4. To obey Jesus. Jesus wants us to be like Him; and so
when we decide that we want The Wall dismantled, we will be
doing what Jesus wants us to do. Jesus will be pleased with
this decision and will direct our path in this quest.
For this particular man, these were convincing, as he was a man
who wanted to serve and obey God. He decided to cooperate with
Jesus in the process of removing The Wall.
Summary
For some reason God didn't chose to place your various gifts in
one place inside you. You need to become aware of the fact that
there is a part of you, your Treasure Inside, over which you do not
have conscious control. It is a part of you that you truly need in
order to have intimate relationships with other people and with
God. In order to have access to those attributes contained in your
Treasure Inside you need to have an intimate, loving relationship
with yourself.
If you are presently unable to do this, there is a Wall of separation
that needs to be removed. The Wall is made up of Bitter Root
Judgments against yourself, and Inner Vows not to listen to that
part of you. Only the blood of Jesus and the authority in His name
can remove The Wall. Removing The Wall is God's plan for you.
Key Concepts:
First, you are restoring a living relationship (with
yourself); and
Second, it is the most important human relationship
you have! All your other relationships are dependent
on this one.
Read Chapter 12
Your "Treasure Inside," which I talked about in this chapter, really
exists. He or she is made in the image of God. This is a difficult
concept for many people to grasp, but Scripture is clear about this.
Chapter 12 of the book, which is included on this website, will
provide you with more information about the Treasure Inside you.
Click here to go to Chapter 12
If what you have been reading makes sense to you, then
to actually take this journey out of your brokenness and
into peace, you need the whole story.
My book, "I Will Give You Rest" gives you the whole
story, including the scriptures revealing how Jesus and
you can do this.
Complete your journey
You should get the book to get the rest of the story.
Buying and using the book will be one of the best
investments you ever made in yourself. And you can
return it for a full refund if it does not measure up to
your expectations.
If you can not afford to buy a copy, email us
your situation and we will consider sending you a
free copy. We want everyone to experience the
freedom Jesus promised!
Email us at: edkurath@divinelydesigned.com.
Copyright 2003 Edward Kurath
Divinely Designed
Being changed into the image of Jesus
Being changed into the image of Jesus
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