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Chapter 1
People Pleasing
The Problem
People pleasing can be a frustrating and self-defeating
problem. Since you are on this web page, I presume that you
haven't yet found a way to be free of it.
You may have tried really hard to quit going along with
others' agendas, to try hard not to "be nice" all the time, to
not be taken advantage of; but you continue to fall back into
the old way. You seem to have a driving need to be liked.
This problem seems to be bigger than you.
Why is this so?
How come your faith doesn't seem adequate to give you the
victorious life Jesus promised?
Some Promises
After all, Jesus promised:
You probably know many more promises in the Bible.
What Is Wrong?
Somehow, the promises seem greater than the reality you are
experiencing.
Is this the way it should be?
How come your faith it isn't working?
These are reasonable questions.
In fact, they are the right questions.
There Is An Answer
All the above scriptures really are true.
You just need detailed instructions as to how to
appropriate them into your life, so you can be set free.
The core issue with people pleasing is fear - fear of rejection.
Somewhere inside there is a driving need for others to like
you.
Being rejected is not something you want to experience. So
you go along with what others want so that you can avoid a
mess.
My book, "I Will Give You Rest" addresses the whole array of
human struggles that Jesus can heal. The chapter order is
for the majority of needs.
However, your issue needs specific attention, and so I would
recommend that you read the book in a different order.
Recommended Sequence
I would recommend that you start with Chapter 9, which will
show you why it is so important that you be accepted by
others, and why it feels so awful when you are rejected.
Then go to Chapter 12, which will show you that you are
made in God's image, and so you are pleasing to him. That
part of you can be a firm foundation, and this awareness will
eliminate the need to please others to feel OK.
Then go to Chapter 11, which will identify a powerful tool that
you possess that is indispensable in your healing journey.
Finally, go back to Chapter 2 and read the rest of the chapters
in order.
Your Journey
I would recommend that you write down somewhere this
revised sequence of chapters so that you will not forget it -
remember, 9, 12, 11, 2. Of course, you can always come
back here to remember.
Be aware that when you read the chapters out of order, you
will bump into some terms with which you are not familiar,
because they were taught in earlier chapters which you have
not yet read.
However, this should not interfere with the main messages in
the chapters you are reading out of order.
You are free to spend as much time as you like on
this website, and you can jump in and out as your
schedule gives you time to read. When you come
back, you can just take up where you left off by
clicking on the appropriate chapter in the links on the
left of the web pages.
Links to:
Chapter 9
Chapter 12
Chapter 11
The Book In Print
The book is also available in print. You can buy a copy at any
time by clicking here, (or on the "Buy A Book" link on the
left of each web page.
Copyright 2008 Edward Kurath
People Pleasing
The Problem
People pleasing can be a frustrating and self-defeating
problem. Since you are on this web page, I presume that you
haven't yet found a way to be free of it.
You may have tried really hard to quit going along with
others' agendas, to try hard not to "be nice" all the time, to
not be taken advantage of; but you continue to fall back into
the old way. You seem to have a driving need to be liked.
This problem seems to be bigger than you.
Why is this so?
How come your faith doesn't seem adequate to give you the
victorious life Jesus promised?
Some Promises
After all, Jesus promised:
….where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty (2
Corinthians 3:1, all NKJV).
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted . . .
To proclaim liberty to the captives . . .
To set at liberty those who are oppressed . . . (Luke 4:
18).
For My yoke is easy and My burden is light (Matthew 11:
30).
I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28).
You probably know many more promises in the Bible.
What Is Wrong?
Somehow, the promises seem greater than the reality you are
experiencing.
Is this the way it should be?
How come your faith it isn't working?
These are reasonable questions.
In fact, they are the right questions.
There Is An Answer
All the above scriptures really are true.
You just need detailed instructions as to how to
appropriate them into your life, so you can be set free.
The core issue with people pleasing is fear - fear of rejection.
Somewhere inside there is a driving need for others to like
you.
Being rejected is not something you want to experience. So
you go along with what others want so that you can avoid a
mess.
My book, "I Will Give You Rest" addresses the whole array of
human struggles that Jesus can heal. The chapter order is
for the majority of needs.
However, your issue needs specific attention, and so I would
recommend that you read the book in a different order.
Recommended Sequence
I would recommend that you start with Chapter 9, which will
show you why it is so important that you be accepted by
others, and why it feels so awful when you are rejected.
Then go to Chapter 12, which will show you that you are
made in God's image, and so you are pleasing to him. That
part of you can be a firm foundation, and this awareness will
eliminate the need to please others to feel OK.
Then go to Chapter 11, which will identify a powerful tool that
you possess that is indispensable in your healing journey.
Finally, go back to Chapter 2 and read the rest of the chapters
in order.
Your Journey
I would recommend that you write down somewhere this
revised sequence of chapters so that you will not forget it -
remember, 9, 12, 11, 2. Of course, you can always come
back here to remember.
Be aware that when you read the chapters out of order, you
will bump into some terms with which you are not familiar,
because they were taught in earlier chapters which you have
not yet read.
However, this should not interfere with the main messages in
the chapters you are reading out of order.
You are free to spend as much time as you like on
this website, and you can jump in and out as your
schedule gives you time to read. When you come
back, you can just take up where you left off by
clicking on the appropriate chapter in the links on the
left of the web pages.
Links to:
Chapter 9
Chapter 12
Chapter 11
The Book In Print
The book is also available in print. You can buy a copy at any
time by clicking here, (or on the "Buy A Book" link on the
left of each web page.
Copyright 2008 Edward Kurath
Divinely Designed
Being changed into the image of Jesus
Being changed into the image of Jesus
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